Monthly Archives: July 2014

The Spiritual Side of Training

The Spiritual Side of Training

Anything that starts with spiritual can sound a bit woo woo, but spiritual can just mean having a relationship based on a profound level of mental or emotional communication.

When I was a girl I clearly remember being told to imagine what it was like for the horse, to think about things from the horse’s perspective; but how do you tune into the horse?  How do you connect on a level where you can listen to what he is saying?

In order to have such a relationship with either human or horse, it’s necessary to be fully present, to be light, to clear a space inside of you for them, to give energy, and probably most importantly, to listen.  Then to know what to say or do, you have to trust your intuition, which you might call trusting your instincts, or trusting the angels, or giving up control with absolute certainty and trust that your good intent will guide you. Reading that back, it sounds kind of nuts, but really it’s just about finding your own way to connect with others, be they human or animal, to be on their wavelength.

Personally, I just think of it as listening to my heart, trusting my intuition to do what feels right at the time.  Always with the wellbeing of the horse first.  I don’t believe that it’s possible to tune into either the horse or the rider, without listening to your heart, and that it’s the mechanical and ego based training that has done (is still doing) so much damage both physically and mentally to our horses.

Of course we need the knowledge first, and we have to coach within our level of experience and expertise; but once we are confident in our ability we can trust our intuition, we can feel what is right in the moment. You may have a great training schedule, or lesson plan written out, but when you tune in, when you listen to the horse, or the horse with it’s rider, those plans may well be put on a back burner, you teach what you see and feel on the day.


Giving Energy

As a coach this may be seen as an important skill to master, as giving someone energy without having to say a word has got to be a great start!  If you focus your attention on something you can fix your intention to direct your energy to it. Thoughts are energy. Think loving thoughts, when you look at someone, their energy levels increase, think nasty thoughts then their energy levels drop. This works to such an extent that when muscle tested, the person who is sent love is strong, and the person who is sent bad thoughts is weak.  Just by thinking good thoughts about a person they feel good, they feel strong, good intent may be enough to give energy, and therefore to give strength to both human and equine alike.


Through Me

To-Me   >   By-Me   >   Through-Me   >   As-Me

In his model of the levels of consciousness, Shore Slocum describes through-me as the point beyond by-me.  Through-me is the place where we lighten the ego and give up control; this is when we stop making it happen, and start to allow it to happen.

Through me, is about getting out of the head and into the heart, acting from instinct, trusting that love will always lead in the right direction.   Having sought the knowledge, the right questions and answers will come from the subconscious if we just allow them to.

(For interest; the person who is a To-Me is a victim, things happen ‘to’ them and they have no choice or responsibility. Something or someone made it happen to them, & something or someone made them feel that way. In order to move to By-Me a To-Me has to give up the blame.  Of course, the greatest examples of As-Me are Jesus, The Buddha & the Prophet Muhammad . At this level, everything is as one. These great leaders see themselves in others, there is no judgement, there is no separateness.)


In conclusion 

Spiritual coaching may sound to some like something done by slightly nutty people whilst dancing naked under a full moon; but really, it’s just a way of talking about tuning in, and listening to those who we seek to share our knowledge with.


“How do we train for a journey of spiritual transformation alone? The truth is we need a spiritual coach, a sensei to teach us – to show us how to focus our attention & to demonstrate how to live in the present & how to achieve Zen like tranquillity. We need a teacher to show us how to see ourselves – not just with heightened objectivity but also with greater forgiveness. For that job there is a master: a sage who can teach any willing student the way. That sage is the horse.”    Allan J Hamilton MD



Enjoying Now!

Enjoying Now!

Notes on how to live in the moment & be happy :O)

There is only one person who can make me happy… and that is me!  Accept happiness as a state of mind that you can choose to take.  Enjoy the journey towards your dreams.  Mix with happy friends who support you personally and professionally.  Smile!  Laugh!  Watch funny and uplifting films, and read funny and uplifting books. Celebrate – wherever you are in your life

Develop an Attitude of Gratitude

Keep a journal, a record of abundance and thankfulness.  Pile gratitude on top of love.  One part love, plus two parts gratefulness = peace

Honor your Highest Values

Give yourself easy rules to live by what is most important to you.

Take Responsibility

“If you find your here and now intolerable and it makes you unhappy, you have three options: remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it totally. If you want to take responsibility for your life, you must choose one of those three options, and you must choose now. Then accept the consequences. No excuses. No negativity. No psychic pollution. Keep your inner space clear.” 

“See if you can catch yourself complaining in either speech or thought, about a situation you find yourself in, what other people do or say, your surroundings, your life situation, even the weather. To complain is always non-acceptance of what is. It invariably carries an unconscious negative charge. When you complain, you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation or accept it. All else is madness”.  

Eckhart Tolle from his book ‘The Power of Now’

Enjoy Now!

Live in the moment.  Slow down and capture the detail.  Enjoy the little things.  Smell the roses.  Be aware.  Be present.  Meditate &  Relax

The Secret Method of Inviting Happiness Through Many Blessings

“Just for today, do not anger, do not worry, be humble.  Be honest in your dealings with people.  Be compassionate towards yourself and others” By the founder of Reiki, Mikao Usui


Love yourself.  Hug your inner child.  Be your own best friend.  Mirror talk – compliment yourself, tell yourself that you love yourself. Do what you love doing.

“Self love is the energy required for loving another person, your family, your neighbour, your country, and your fellow human beings” Masaru Emoto

 Love others.  Be compassionate.  Share.  Be generous.  Forgive – yourself and others.  Letting go and forgiving someone doesn’t change the past – but changes the hold that it has over you. 

“What you give in life is what you receive. To give love is to receive love. A mind full of love and good feelings can never go wrong” Sydney Banks

Live by Empowering Beliefs

Cultivate beliefs that make you stronger in mind and spirit.  Dwell on beliefs that create a better world – care about something important

“If I believe I cannot do something, it makes me incapable of doing it. But when I believe I can, then I acquire the ability to do it, even if I did not have the ability in the beginning”

Mahatma Gandhi

Look for the positive in everything!

Read uplifting books.  Think positive thoughts.  Use positive language.  Watch uplifting films.  Go on motivational courses.  Choose your friends carefully.  Have positive thoughts.  Be optimistic.  Focus on the positive.  Plan new experiences.  Be creative.

“Always look for the beauty in life”

Alice Herz-Sommer (110-year-old holocaust survivor 1904 – 2014)          See video clip click:

Love yourself

Have a Great Self-Image.  Be true to yourself.  ‘Cut the… poo’ (remember transformational vocabulary!).  and let your authentic self shine through.

“Man is not what he thinks he is, but what he thinks, he is!” Emerson

Keep Perspective

Count your blessings and Curb envy

 See Nick Vujicic Video ‘No arms, no legs, no worries!’

Refine Your Energy

Change your energy to attract more of what you want in life. The Law of Attraction works when nothing is resisting it.  The Law of Attraction works when you come from a place of abundance.  The Law of Attraction works when you have positive thoughts and emotions.  The Law of Attraction works when you allow it to happen.  Create positive energy from thoughts, words and beliefs.  De-clutter and re-cycle to allow energy to flow freely.  Thoughts become things.  Like attracts like… be careful what you wish for!

“I attract into my life whatever I give my energy, focus and attention to – whether wanted or unwanted” Michael Losier

Be Confident

Visualize.  Take action.  Use confident language.  See yourself as a confident person.  Practice the posture of a confident person.

“I was always looking outside myself for strength and confidence, but it comes from within. It is there all the time” Anna Freud


To yourself.  Listen to wise words.  Use positive words.   Ask positive questions.  Use affirmations and incantations.  Talk positive words to yourself in the mirror – compliment yourself.  Tame your gremlins… Control your inner voice.

Remember the power of words

“Kind words are the music of the world. They have a power which seems to be beyond natural causes, as if they were some angel’s song which had lost its way and come to earth.” Frederick William Faber

Keep in the Loop

Remember the cybernetic loop – the mind effects the body – the body effects the mind.  Practice a happy confident posture.  Have a healthy diet – you are what you eat.  Learn how to keep your body healthy.  Keep hydrated.  Breathe from your belly.  Take regular exercise. Meditate & remember to relax.

Keep Cycling!

Always have something exciting to look forward to.  Focus on happiness.  Set inspiring goals that motivate you.  Work towards your goals.  State what you want.  Write down what you want.  Write down your goals.  Mind map or list your goals.  Make a treasure map. Focus on what you want. Keep peddling to stay on your bike!

Always remember

“You are never to old to set another goal or dream another dream”  C S Lewis