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Spiritual coaching is about being present, being light, clearing a space inside of you for your client, giving energy, & listening. It is about allowing the force to be with you, or trusting your intuition, or trusting your instincts, or trusting the angels, or giving up control with absolute certainty & trust that your good intent will guide you.

As a ‘client-led’ life-coach, one has to aspire to a certain level of ‘through~me’, leading from a place of love, & believing that the client has the answers for themselves.  As a horse or rider trainer, I don’t believe that it is possible to ‘tune into’ either the horse or the rider, without listening to your heart, & that it is the mechanical & ego based training that has done (& is still doing) so much damage both physically & mentally to our horses.

Through Me

  • In his model of the level’s of consciousness, Shore Slocum describes ‘through~me’ as the point beyond ‘By~Me’. This is when we lighten the ego & give up control; this is when we stop ‘making it happen’, & start to ‘allow it to happen’.
  • Through me, is about getting out of the head and into the heart, acting from instinct, trusting that love will always leads in the right direction, & that, having sought the knowledge, the right questions & answers will come from the sub~conscious, the inner light, or a higher power will be present & working through them.








For interest

  • The person who is a ‘To~Me’ is a victim, things happen ‘to’ them and they have no choice or responsibility. Something or someone made it happen to them, & something or someone made them feel that way. In order to move to ‘By~Me’ a ‘To~Me’ has to give up the blame.
  • Of course, the greatest examples of ‘As~Me’ are Jesus, The Buddha & the Prophet Muhammad . At this level, everything is as one. These great leaders see themselves in others, there is no judgement, there is no separateness.

‘When we seek to discover the best in others, we somehow bring out the best in ourselves.’ William Arthur Ward

  Giving Energy

  • As a coach this may be seen as an important skill to master, as giving someone energy without having to say a word has got to be a great start!
  • If you focus your attention on something you can fix your intention to direct your energy to it. Thoughts are energy. Think loving thoughts, when you look at someone, their energy levels increase, think nasty thoughts then their energy levels drop. This works to such an extent that when muscle tested, the person who is sent love is strong, and the person who is sent bad thoughts is weak.
  • Just by thinking good thoughts about a person they feel good, they feel strong, good intent may be enough to give energy, and therefore to give strength.

The horse can also be our spiritual teacher.

“How do we train for a journey of spiritual transformation alone? The truth is we need a spiritual coach, a sensei to teach us – to show us how to focus our attention & to demonstrate how to live in the present & how to achieve Zen like tranquillity. We need a teacher to show us how to see ourselves – not just with heightened objectivity but also with greater forgiveness. For that job there is a master: a sage who can teach any willing student the way. That sage is the horse.”    Allan J Hamilton MD

Helping others meets our spiritual need to grow & contribute; & it is through love that a spiritual coach/teacher/trainer endeavors to serve.  I find these thoughts beautiful, and something to strive for.

‘I believe you came into the world to accomplish something, & not something small or insignificant. That’s not worthy of you. You came here to make a major contribution to life on this planet.’ Paul Solomon


Enjoying Now!

Enjoying Now!

Notes on how to live in the moment & be happy :O)

There is only one person who can make me happy… and that is me!  Accept happiness as a state of mind that you can choose to take.  Enjoy the journey towards your dreams.  Mix with happy friends who support you personally and professionally.  Smile!  Laugh!  Watch funny and uplifting films, and read funny and uplifting books. Celebrate – wherever you are in your life

Develop an Attitude of Gratitude

Keep a journal, a record of abundance and thankfulness.  Pile gratitude on top of love.  One part love, plus two parts gratefulness = peace

Honor your Highest Values

Give yourself easy rules to live by what is most important to you.

Take Responsibility

“If you find your here and now intolerable and it makes you unhappy, you have three options: remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it totally. If you want to take responsibility for your life, you must choose one of those three options, and you must choose now. Then accept the consequences. No excuses. No negativity. No psychic pollution. Keep your inner space clear.” 

“See if you can catch yourself complaining in either speech or thought, about a situation you find yourself in, what other people do or say, your surroundings, your life situation, even the weather. To complain is always non-acceptance of what is. It invariably carries an unconscious negative charge. When you complain, you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation or accept it. All else is madness”.  

Eckhart Tolle from his book ‘The Power of Now’

Enjoy Now!

Live in the moment.  Slow down and capture the detail.  Enjoy the little things.  Smell the roses.  Be aware.  Be present.  Meditate &  Relax

The Secret Method of Inviting Happiness Through Many Blessings

“Just for today, do not anger, do not worry, be humble.  Be honest in your dealings with people.  Be compassionate towards yourself and others” By the founder of Reiki, Mikao Usui


Love yourself.  Hug your inner child.  Be your own best friend.  Mirror talk – compliment yourself, tell yourself that you love yourself. Do what you love doing.

“Self love is the energy required for loving another person, your family, your neighbour, your country, and your fellow human beings” Masaru Emoto

 Love others.  Be compassionate.  Share.  Be generous.  Forgive – yourself and others.  Letting go and forgiving someone doesn’t change the past – but changes the hold that it has over you. 

“What you give in life is what you receive. To give love is to receive love. A mind full of love and good feelings can never go wrong” Sydney Banks

Live by Empowering Beliefs

Cultivate beliefs that make you stronger in mind and spirit.  Dwell on beliefs that create a better world – care about something important

“If I believe I cannot do something, it makes me incapable of doing it. But when I believe I can, then I acquire the ability to do it, even if I did not have the ability in the beginning”

Mahatma Gandhi

Look for the positive in everything!

Read uplifting books.  Think positive thoughts.  Use positive language.  Watch uplifting films.  Go on motivational courses.  Choose your friends carefully.  Have positive thoughts.  Be optimistic.  Focus on the positive.  Plan new experiences.  Be creative.

“Always look for the beauty in life”

Alice Herz-Sommer (110-year-old holocaust survivor 1904 – 2014)          See video clip click: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OnoQ8F_CUfE

Love yourself

Have a Great Self-Image.  Be true to yourself.  ‘Cut the… poo’ (remember transformational vocabulary!).  and let your authentic self shine through.

“Man is not what he thinks he is, but what he thinks, he is!” Emerson

Keep Perspective

Count your blessings and Curb envy

 See Nick Vujicic Video ‘No arms, no legs, no worries!’  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yo_24_qTNac

Refine Your Energy

Change your energy to attract more of what you want in life. The Law of Attraction works when nothing is resisting it.  The Law of Attraction works when you come from a place of abundance.  The Law of Attraction works when you have positive thoughts and emotions.  The Law of Attraction works when you allow it to happen.  Create positive energy from thoughts, words and beliefs.  De-clutter and re-cycle to allow energy to flow freely.  Thoughts become things.  Like attracts like… be careful what you wish for!

“I attract into my life whatever I give my energy, focus and attention to – whether wanted or unwanted” Michael Losier

Be Confident

Visualize.  Take action.  Use confident language.  See yourself as a confident person.  Practice the posture of a confident person.

“I was always looking outside myself for strength and confidence, but it comes from within. It is there all the time” Anna Freud


To yourself.  Listen to wise words.  Use positive words.   Ask positive questions.  Use affirmations and incantations.  Talk positive words to yourself in the mirror – compliment yourself.  Tame your gremlins… Control your inner voice.

Remember the power of words

“Kind words are the music of the world. They have a power which seems to be beyond natural causes, as if they were some angel’s song which had lost its way and come to earth.” Frederick William Faber

Keep in the Loop

Remember the cybernetic loop – the mind effects the body – the body effects the mind.  Practice a happy confident posture.  Have a healthy diet – you are what you eat.  Learn how to keep your body healthy.  Keep hydrated.  Breathe from your belly.  Take regular exercise. Meditate & remember to relax.

Keep Cycling!

Always have something exciting to look forward to.  Focus on happiness.  Set inspiring goals that motivate you.  Work towards your goals.  State what you want.  Write down what you want.  Write down your goals.  Mind map or list your goals.  Make a treasure map. Focus on what you want. Keep peddling to stay on your bike!

Always remember

“You are never to old to set another goal or dream another dream”  C S Lewis


The Greatest Feeling

The Greatest Feeling

Rubi’s eye whiskers brushed softly against my face, then she rested her muzzle gently on my arm, & there we stood, breathing heart to heart. I bowed my head to rest it against her, we were totally accepting of each other, completely at peace. With the soft rays of the evening sun warming the back of my neck, I swear that I was in heaven. No trophy or rosette, no thrill of a ride, nothing could touch this feeling of being so connected with the spirit of a horse. At last, not only did we trust each other, but also Rubi was choosing to be with me.

That was our experience yesterday, & it was only four days ago that Charlie came to see us. As he stood in her stable I worried that Rubi may hurt him, as she could be so unpredictable & intolerant of people in her space, but in no time at all, she had taken herself to stand only a few feet from him. Charlie called me into the stable, & he quietly instructed me. As Rubi sidled a little closer to me, I felt her letting go, I felt us connecting, & tears streamed down my face, & there we stood, completely absorbed in our own little world, just ‘being’ together, & for three quarters of an hour, time stood still.

Clearly Rubi has suffered, & my strong feeling is that she had her trust betrayed to such an extent that she built a barrier around herself, only allowing glimpses of her loveliness. But Charlie has the gift, not only to connect with the horses himself, but also to open a door in the heart of both the horse & it’s carer, so that they can find a much deeper understanding & bond.

Rubi has taken me on an incredible journey, quite a roller coaster of an emotional ride, but thanks to Charlie, I feel that Rubi & I now have a connection that we can build upon.

Charlies website is www.charlieholleshorsehealing.co.uk